I know its been forever since I posted a message of my own but this topic has come up for me a lot lately, in the news and other places. Lately I have been struggling with reporting my abuse and with that come all the baggage about other people and the fears about being believed. Which I feel ties in with false accusations. I know that us survivors know a lot about what false accusations do for us in our journeys.
Although, false accusations are rare they are what gets the press. Sexual abuse really isn't talked about really at all in my world publicly unless its on Law and Order SVU. But every once and a while a case comes along that finally gets people talking (Kobe Bryant, MJ, that one Rugby team, etc.), and almost always those that really stick are about people falsely accused of Rape, abuse, etc. I mean their are others that are false but the false ones really hurt the survivors out there.
False Accusations cause Survivors harm but we are once again swept under the rug. Yes the accused was wrong but you know every false accusation hurts every single survivor on earth, every time. Because of FA's survivors are forced to worry about being believed (when they shouldn't because it happened). They have to deal with a legal system that benefits the perpetrator not the victim. They have to worry about their character being anayised because some other person lied about it. Survivors shouldn’t have to deal with this but FA's make this worse for us. A person abused by some one of the faintest ounces of celebrity has to worry about their horror being talked about by the entire populous. NONE of this should have to happen to us.
I want to be believed but I am so sacred I won't because I can't remember the name of my abuser because it happened over 11 years ago and frankly I wanted to forget it all but I didn't. And I want my day in court because I was wronged and I want the whole world to know who he is. But I wonder if they will believe me. FA's make it harder for me to report it because once again it brings back the fear and I want to just keep silent.