"Could you honestly love someone who lies?"
I was recently asked this, as a reflection of myself.
Not just myself, but also of my past actions.
You want an honest answer?
Yes, I could.
Given the right reasons as to why they did.
And under certain circumstances, most certainly.
Was it done maliciously?
Was it done spitefully?
If it was done to cause hurt to someone else,
You`re right. I can`t.
What I`ve found, though
It`s not as simple as, "Oh, they lied. That means that they`re a horrible person."
I can understand how you`d believe it all adds up.
That even the smallest lie can bring a large amount of pain.
What it seems is that you have failed to realise a few things in your anger towards me.
That a lie, no matter how big or small, doesn`t make the person.
It`s the person themselves.
It`s the person they are despite what most of society thinks of them.
It`s the person they are from their core beliefs.
From the things they actually want to do.
From the things that they believe, their own morals.
Even if they fail to act on those morals they hold so dear.
Because sadly, that`s life.
Failing to meet the standards you set for yourself.
Failing to sometimes act, even when your mind screams at you to act.
And I don`t mean in the sense of holding back and resisting to something you shouldn`t have done anyways.
I mean acting upon something you know is right.
Something you know is most effective, beneficial for yourself and others.
Yes. I can love someone who lies.
I can and will love someone who lies.
You think you`ve become completely honest?
Gotten away from it yourself?
Sweetie, I`m sorry to say you haven`t.
Even if it`s not a lie to someone else.
There isn`t a single person that doesn`t lie to themselves.
Every day, I work to accept my past.
Every day, I try to look forward to my future.
Every day, I learn to become more thankful for what I have.
Despite how hard it is to do all of those things.
I refuse to let my past become my future.
I refuse to let someone continue to hold over me the things I have done.
Especially when I already regret it.
When I wish I had never done abcxyz.
I will not let my past define me.
I am not perfect.
I`ve made my share of mistakes.
I`ll continue to make mistakes.
And I`ll continue to grow.
But who I once was
And what I once have done
Is NOT who I am now.
Don`t let the bitterness of the past
Turn you blind to all I have become.
And I shall do the same for you.
I am a better person than before.
I am a better person
Than EITHER of us realise.