I just don't get it. My mom is uprooting my brother and I. We've lived in our current house for just less than 2 years (moved in, in October 2009, it's now June 2011) and we love it. Sure it's small, but we are only 3 people, I don't spend A LOT of time there, and neither does my brother, so it's the perfect amount of space for us. Plus it's close to our high school (like 10 minutes walk if you walk SLOWLY). It's a really good neighbourhood and it's like 2 minutes from my boyfriend.
Over the Easter weekend she bought this house. Didn't show the house to us, didn't even talk to us about possibly moving. Nothing! We were totally in the dark. All the papers were signed when she decided it was time to tell her children - the people who were moving there to live for the next however many years we live with her. The problem isn't that, although irritating that's not the problem. The problem is the location. The house itself looks a bit like a drug den. There's all sorts of issues with the building itself, but the worst thing is the neighbourhood.
In my city we have a branch of Child Protective Services (CPS) for the entire city, but then we also have a branch just for this neighbourhood!!! YEs you read that correct, one little neighbourhood has a branch of CPS for it only. Literally it only handles calls for this area! Theres a huge problem with domestic violence, neglect/abuse etc not including drug/alcohol issues. Pretty well all the housing in the area is subsidized government housing. Not that there is a problem with government housing or anything! I want to keep that straight, I don't care if you (for whatever reason) are on government assistance and literally can't afford anything else. I get that. And I don't judge based on that, but like this area is literally referred to as the slums of my city. It scares the pee out of me to move out there.
Not to mention my little brother (okay he's 16, but still my little brother) has some really heavy mental problems right now. He has ADD/ADHD, anxiety
(both basic and social) depression and a couple other things I can't remember. Either way, he's extremely impressionable. He's also really mouthy... He called me a bitch and a whore last night because I asked him to do something and he wouldn't do it and I got angry and yelled at him for a moment. He will most likely either get pressured into doing something illegal and get addicted.. Oh didn't mention... He is addicted to online gambling and has been known to steal credit cards to pay for his habit. He's stolen over $7000 from my mother and I in the past roughtly 8 months. So he's also got an addictive personality.
If he doesn't get hooked onto either booze or drugs (or some combo of the above) he'll probably do something really stupid, mouth off to the wrong person, steal from the wrong person etc. And get himself beaten up or killed.
I also have anxiety, nothing bad enough that needs medication (I also try and avoid taking as much medication as possible) but I still get anxiety attacks nearly daily. This new house situation has put me into a constant state of anxiety attacks. I've tried explaining this to my mother but she doesn't seem to understand. Yet here we are, 2 weeks from moving and she's still trying to justify how this is an awesome thing for us and it'll be great fun. My Mother-in-Law is already scared for my safety, she works for CPS by the way and doesn't like this whole situation. I told my dad (because my parents are seperated, and in the process of divorcing) where we were moving and the look on his face confirmed my fears about the neighbourhood even more.
I just don't understand how she could do this to us. The kids she's supposed to take care of and love unconditionally....