i finally got the courage to tell my boyfriend about my experiences.  i knew it would be difficult for him to understand, but he didn't react at all how i expected.  he went rigid with anger.  i was really upset myself and after a few minutes i think he realized how upset i was and became more empathetic and caring.  i told him i just needed him to hold me and so he did for awhile and i felt a lot better.  i feel so guilty for dropping this bomb on him.  i don't want him to be upset and sad as i am.  i just wanted him to understand and know.  we haven't talked about it so much since i've told him.  he says he needs time.  all he'll say is that he doesn't want to know the name or face because he's afraid he'll hurt him.  blechhhh...i feel so much more lost and confused.  i want to help him, but i have trouble helping myself.  i just needed him to know and i don't want our relationship to change.  it is so unfair that what happened to me is ruining everything.  i thought telling him would help open things up and perhaps make us closer, but no.  anybody know of some significant other responses or things to say, etc.?