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Posted: 12/28/2008 - 1 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 0 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]
Category: Survivor Entry

Hi,

My name is Lynsey, I'm 26 years old and I am a survivor of acquaintence rape.  I've written my story on a separate post but wanted to send a message to offer my support to anyone who needs someone to listen.

Since the attack I have suffered from PTSD and have self-harmed, as well as developing depression and Bulimia.  I also have a beautiful 5 year old son, who was conceived during the rape.  I would welcome the chance to speak with other survivors, and especially anyone who has gone through similar experiences.

Take care of yourselves, you deserve it!

xxx
I was stalked, beaten and...
Posted: 3/26/2008 - 3 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 0 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]
Category: Survivor Entry
I was stalked, beaten and raped over a period of 2 months when I was 19 years old by a man I thought I could trust; an ex-boyfriend. My work colleagues/friends came with me to the police and he was arrested, however there wasn`t enough evidence to prosecute him. There was plenty of evidence that I had been raped, but nothing to prove it was him.

Two months later I found out I was pregnant as a result. The only way to prove it was him would have been to have a DNA test done on my baby, but that would have meant that he could have applied for access or even custody, and I couldn`t bear that. I couldn`t put myself or my baby in that kind of danger.

I dropped the charges and he never found out I was pregnant. I now have a beautiful, perfect, 4 1/2 year old son and I am so proud of him. I would rather have gone through all of that just to have my baby than erase the ordeal and not have my son.

It is very difficult being a single mother, having literally no support from a father figure and being still too afraid of men to enter into a relationship and eventually find a man to be a dad to my son. I`m praying that one day it will happen for me.

I`ve spent the last 5 years worrying about what I`m going to tell him when he asks why he hasn`t got a daddy like all of the other children at school. I genuinely don`t know what to say.

I`ve read too many posts from victims/survivors on support sites where the victims blame themselves for what happened to them. Please don`t blame yourself. You did not cause this to happen and you certainly did not deserve it. Nor did I.

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