Sorry I haven't updated you all this past couple of weeks. My computer is gone for a few months and I have alot going on right now with the child advocacy assessments closing up in August. Yes I will know if I'm a fit mother (do you believe this?!) on August 25th and than professionals who don't even know us are going to tell me whether they think my children and I have been abused. HMMMM! Ok why does this make me angry? I guess because I believe if you weren't there than you can't say it never happened and yet that is exactly what Child Services Worker said to me just last month about my son because he recanted....ok....here is the update...
Dad (the abuser) breached his court order and drove within the two block limit of my home but he was never charged by the police. Then the next week he called child services to cancel is July 19th access. This past Sunday the 26th of July my son saw his dad for three hours but needed to go to camp so I got to pick him up earlier with the abusers permission of course otherwise I'd be in contempt. The enabler (the abuser's girlfriend) was there on drop off so I'm assuming she was supervising to the best of her ability given her denial of the abuse.
I saw my lawyer today and gave him the developmental paediatrican's report that stated my son seems to have further developmental delays than first considered or he is very distressed. The doctor than says he is concerned that the Child Services take my son's cognitive delays in account when interviewing him. The Child services and police have been interviewing my son without accommodating his developmental delays and than wondered why he couldn't put the abuse disclosures into context. This is because he is DELAYED! OK a mom frustrated now. Not uncommon when you see how they are failing my son. I will fight until there is nothing left to fight with and it's all because of the support from you all that helps me go forward remembering why I am doing it and risking seeming crazy. Hope you are all well!
I have no computer for a few months, the other one broke and I'm trying not to use credit ....I am saving for a new one :) Talk when I can
Blessings!
Mandee