I said I would post an update as to what has been happening with my ex who is no longer a registered sex offender because here in Canada they stop the registration after a certain amount of years depending on the severity of the crime. So as of 2012 my ex who sexually assaulted myself and both my children is a "regular citizen"...well ALMOST!!
Good news!! The Child Protective Services here put my family through a two year assessment to determine if I was a wack job telling my children to lie about their dad....well that assessment completed two years ago and they determined I am sane (surprise surprise lol) ...they also determined my daughter had been sexually assaulted by my ex but couldn't say my son had because he is developmentally delayed and did not disclose anything to them. Regardless they did believe with the supporting documentation of the years of journaling my son's behaviours that he had been exposed to "sexualized material"...this is all documented on my previous entries (for those who would like to catch up on my Story ..the never ending SAGA )....Regardless the assessors from this child abuse department decided that in order for there to be an understanding as to how dangerous my ex is to see his father unsupervised they asked for a Risk Assessment to be done....
More Good News...The risk assessment has been completed by his very own counselor who believed our stories of sexual assault and determined that my ex is in denial of his abuses and is a Moderate risk of re-offending against children. This was very damaging to the ex because the report also supported that he should be supervised around children (including my son)...
More Good News...After this report was release and I was forcd to deal with several years of Child Protective Services intrusion on our lives...THEY CLOSED OUR FILE!!! They sited that my family (myself, children and new husband) are doing well and the only reason they were involved was because they were providing supervised access until the assessment was done....YUUUUUUUUPPPPP!!! you guessed it!!
The Child Protective services are no longer willing to supervise access and neither is our local access centre because they don't supervise sex offenders....so you see where I'm going???!!
OUR ABUSER IS UP SHITS CREEK WITHOUT A PADDLE AND IT LOOKS REAL GOOD ON HIM!! He is no longer able to see his son and if he wants to he will have to bring it back to court...however there is no place but private agencies to supervise and I will never allow that because it is not government regulated and my son has special needs and cannot be at this kind of agency. So guys!! I am awaiting court because I know the ex just has to win so he will try to get access to his son ...however there is no way it will be unsupervised and he has to get throught this TOUGH ASS BITCH to get there LOL...I'm so fucking happy (sorry for the swearing..just had to throw that in there for affect...) Love you guys and gals for all the support you have given us over the years. My family is at peace now...My daughter is in counselling now and in her beginning stages of recovery...my son is beginning his therapeutic intervention for his acting out and we will see how that goes but it's a step in the right direction. My other two children are healthy and beautiful babies. My recovery is a rollarcoaster of anger and forgiveness....it will take years to truly forgive my abuser...first protection...than recovery.....and all the while I will be asking God to help me forgive the ex for his life changing abuse.
Again, Thank you all for your love and support (((((hugs)))) big ones!
Love & Blessings , Mandee