I was in a session yesterday with my counsellor and talked about boundaries with my teenage daughter. (I have none.) I have been acting like a friend to her, for so long. I realise this is not going to work like this and have to step up and be a mother. I mean ya, I'm mother and I care for her like a mother should but, we are missing a few important things in her growing into a young lady. I guess I became this way with her because I was afraid she might turn around and say she'll leave to go back to her fathers or something. Which she wouldn't and that's another story. She suffers from an ulcer and is awaiting surgery. I got into talking about my daughter because of her ulcer and the way she is and what would have caused this ulcer. Well, everything has caused this ulcer. I told my counsellor what she seems to be going through emotionally/physically and it was agreed that she is suffering from the pain and not 100% knowing that it is an ulcer yet but, also depression. The symptoms she has are, feelings of hopelessness, having no energy and tired all the time, crying for no apparent reason and also not being able to cry when she wants, can't concentrate, loss of appetite and change in sleep ( no sleep), headaches and of course the stomach pain. Now keep in mind she does have an ulcer that would cause most if not all of these signs. I showed my daughter a form that was given to me for her and she broke down and said wow, that was her. Besides the pain she endures on a regular basis, she can say she is depressed. She has agreed she wants help but, when the surgery is booked and over with and her health is a little bit better. There's so much to get into about this. I really don't know where to start, except that I look at my daughter and I can only wish I was like her at this age. I let her do whatever she wants, she gets most times what she wants. I 'm not teaching her boundaries. We all need healthy boundaries to survive and we need to set boundaries to create healthy relationships. I could go on and on about this but, I won't. I just wanted to share that I had a huge awakening yesterday and a huge step towards my healing and understanding what boundaries really mean and how not having them can affect a persons life. My daughter is a beautiful young lady with a huge bright future ahead of her and I'm incredibly proud of her. Love you my angle.